Try Softer by Aundi Kolber
Week 1: Introduction — The Try Softer Invitation
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Before diving into the chapters, Kolber sets the stage by naming the exhaustion so many of us carry — and daring to suggest there is another way. As you discuss this week, pay attention to what stirs in you as you read her opening invitation.
Discussion Questions
7 questions1.Kolber opens by describing a culture that preaches a "try harder" gospel — keep going, keep performing, keep pretending you're fine. Where have you encountered this message most loudly in your own life?
a.Was it in your family of origin, your workplace, your church, or somewhere else?
b.What did it cost you to keep living by that message?
2.How does Kolber define "trying softer"? In your own words, what is she inviting us into — and what is she not saying (i.e., what is the difference between trying softer and simply giving up or checking out)?
3.Kolber identifies herself as both a therapist and someone who has walked through her own story of pain and healing. How does her dual role — professional and personal — shape the way you receive her voice in this book?
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