Try Softer by Aundi Kolber
Week 9: Chapter 8 — The Gentle Life
Read Chapter 8 of Try Softer by Aundi Kolber.
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Read 3 of 7 discussion questions below. Unlock the complete 11-week guide when you’re ready.
As Kolber moves toward her conclusion, she paints a picture of what the try softer life actually looks like in practice — not a single dramatic transformation, but a daily, gentle, embodied way of being. Receive these questions as an invitation, not a checklist.
Discussion Questions
7 questions1.Kolber describes the try softer life as less of a destination and more of an ongoing orientation — a daily practice of returning to yourself, your body, and your God. How is this different from the way we often approach personal growth or spiritual formation (as a problem to be solved or a goal to be achieved)?
2.She talks about the importance of pacing — not trying to process everything at once, not forcing healing faster than it can naturally unfold. Where in your life do you tend to rush the healing process, either in yourself or in others?
3.Kolber writes warmly about the role of safe community — therapists, trusted friends, spiritual directors, support groups — in sustaining the try softer life. Who are the people in your life who hold space for you to be honest and imperfect? How do you cultivate those relationships?