Try Softer by Aundi Kolber
Week 4: Chapter 3 — Your Body Keeps the Score
Read Chapter 3 of Try Softer by Aundi Kolber.
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For many of us, the body has been a source of shame, confusion, or disconnection — but Kolber invites us to see it as a source of wisdom. This week's questions ask you to pay closer attention to what your body might be telling you.
Discussion Questions
7 questions1.Kolber explains how the nervous system — particularly the autonomic nervous system — responds to threat in ways that are automatic and below conscious awareness. Before reading this chapter, how aware were you of your own nervous system's activity? Did this chapter change or deepen your understanding?
2.She describes the "fight, flight, or freeze" responses and how they can become stuck patterns — especially when stress is chronic or unresolved. Which of these three responses feels most familiar to you? Can you identify a situation where you defaulted to it recently?
3.Kolber introduces somatic (body-based) practices as a way of helping the nervous system regulate and return to the window of tolerance. She offers practical exercises like grounding, breathing, and orienting. Have you tried any of these? What was your experience?
a.If you haven't tried them, what hesitations do you have?
b.If you have, what did you notice in your body?