His Needs, Her Needs by Willard F. Harley Jr.
Week 10: Chapter 9 — His Need #4: Domestic Support
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Harley addresses a need that may feel old-fashioned to some readers — a husband's need for a peaceful, well-managed home — and asks couples to engage it honestly rather than dismissively.
Discussion Questions
7 questions1.How does Harley define the need for "domestic support"? What is he actually asking for, and what is he not asking for?
2.Harley acknowledges that this chapter can feel culturally dated or unfair, especially in households where both spouses work full time. How does he address that concern? Do you find his response convincing?
3.Harley's point is not that the wife must do all domestic work, but that the home environment matters deeply to a husband's emotional wellbeing and sense of refuge. How does understanding that help reframe the conversation around housework and domestic responsibilities?
a.How are domestic responsibilities currently divided in your home? Does that division feel fair and sustainable to both of you?
b.What does your home feel like as a place of rest and refuge — for both of you?
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