His Needs, Her Needs by Willard F. Harley Jr.
Week 9: Chapter 8 — Her Need #3: Financial Support
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Harley argues that financial provision and security is a genuine and deeply felt emotional need for many wives — and that understanding it that way, rather than dismissing it as materialism, is essential for husbands.
Discussion Questions
7 questions1.Harley defines a wife's need for financial support as the need to feel secure — to know that the family's financial needs will be met and that she is not carrying that burden alone. How is that different from simply wanting money or a high income?
2.Harley notes that financial stress is one of the most common and most destructive forces in marriage. How does unresolved financial strain make it harder to meet each other's emotional needs?
3.Harley is careful to acknowledge that in modern marriages, both spouses often work — and that financial support is not exclusively a husband's responsibility. How does the core need for financial security apply in dual-income or non-traditional households?
a.Does your spouse feel financially secure in your marriage right now? How do you know?
b.Are there financial decisions or habits in your marriage that generate anxiety or conflict? What would it look like to address those together?