His Needs, Her Needs by Willard F. Harley Jr.
Week 11: Chapter 10 — Her Need #4: Family Commitment
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Harley identifies a wife's need for a husband who is genuinely and actively committed to family life — not just present in the house, but engaged with the children, invested in family decisions, and prioritizing the home as a central part of his identity.
Discussion Questions
7 questions1.How does Harley define "family commitment" as a need? What does he mean beyond simply being a faithful provider?
2.Harley argues that many wives feel profoundly alone in parenting even when their husbands are physically present, because the husbands are emotionally disengaged from family life. Does that ring true in your experience or observation? What does emotional engagement in family life look like?
3.Harley makes the case that a husband who prioritizes work, hobbies, or personal activities over family commitments is making consistent withdrawals from his wife's Love Bank — even if he doesn't realize it. Have you ever thought about your time and priority choices in those terms?
a.What does your weekly schedule say about your actual priorities? Does it reflect what you say your priorities are?
b.What is one family commitment you could make more consistently that would be meaningful to your spouse?